Why are you such a jerk?

I’m really getting annoyed with people and all their judgements. Why, as a culture must we be so quick to jump all over each other and beat each other down? Why is it so hard to reserve judgement and not make assumptions? Our differences are what makes this world such an interesting and fun place to live. It really is okay that we’re not the same. Really.

I have a very strong faith and belief system, and I live it to the best of my ability. For me, it is right and what I know to be true. Do I disagree with other people’s beliefs and actions? Without question. Do I avoid situations and events that I don’t “agree” with, yes. Does that mean that I am better than anyone else, No it doesn’t.

I almost never swear, and I rarely drink. But some of my most favourite people curse like truckers and drink copious amounts of liquor. I LOVE them in spite of our differences. I attend church weekly, and yet many of my friends and associates, don’t. I still thoroughly enjoy my time spent with them and enjoy the things that they bring into my life. I have many friends that support causes that I don’t support, watch movies that I question, and fight for things that I don’t believe in. I choose to wish them well, and go the other direction. I may not participate in your events or join you in a solidarity march, but I won’t call you names or belittle you. I just ask that you give me and my beliefs the same respect.

I challenge all of you with strong beliefs and attitudes to show some compassion when sharing about yourself. Recognize that others are just as convicted by their truths as you are about yours. Do I suggest that you compromise yourself and what you know? Absolutely not.  But it won’t kill you to stand there with a listening ear, and be respectful to what they have to say. What you do with their information is up to you.

Frankly, if what you believe in is so important, you may want to leave the lines of communication open. Someday, these very people who you so freely judge may want to learn more about your truths and what you believe. If you honestly care about sharing what you believe, stop being such a jerk and practice what you preach.

So please, as we enter the Christmas season where opinions and judgement thrive, Choose Grace.   (grace – a disposition to kindness and compassion.) And please know that when I wish you a Merry Christmas and you reply with a Happy Holidays,  I love you in spite of our differences.

6 thoughts on “Why are you such a jerk?

  1. Brettany December 5, 2011 at 10:28 pm Reply


    I couldn’t of said it better myself 🙂

    You rock girlie…

  2. Darci November 10, 2013 at 7:25 pm Reply

    yes, yes and yes! This is why I love you and LOVE that you are my friend! Amen 😉

  3. Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] November 11, 2013 at 9:58 pm Reply

    I am a believer like you, and I would not get offended if somebody wished me a happy holidays or even a happy Hanukkah even though I’m Christian, but I do take slight offense that it is now politically correct to say happy holidays versus Merry Christmas. It seems to be the norm especially as a blogger that companies and brands want you to promote holiday shopping versus Christmas shopping. I do understand that people are buying gifts maybe for Hanukkah or Kwanzaa, in all honesty I’m a bit ignorant when it comes to other religious traditions! The fact of the matter is it was always “Merry Christmas” growing up and I’m not sure where we lost that. I too am not a drinker or really a partier, but some of my best friends sure love their wine and I don’t hold that against them. Your post is a good reminder that we should practice grace every day and be not only tolerant but more importantly accepting of other peoples beliefs and traditions too, and hopefully they show the same courtesy and respect to me.

  4. Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] November 11, 2013 at 10:04 pm Reply

    This is a really great post and a great reminder around Christmas season that there’s a lot of people that have different beliefs about this time of the year. I am a believer, like you, I would never get offended if somebody wished me a happy holidays just like I hope nobody would ever get offended if I wish them a Merry Christmas. What I don’t quite understand nowadays is that “happy holidays” seems to be the norm versus Merry Christmas like it was when we were growing up. I don’t say I’m “holiday shopping” I say I’m Christmas shopping. In Canada we are a big melting pot of culture, and that is a wonderful wonderful thing, I welcome all cultures to keep and adopt their traditions while they live in Canada, I just pray that we don’t lose sight of our own traditions and beliefs. Again – great post!

    • this mom's got something to say ... November 11, 2013 at 10:11 pm Reply

      Thanks so much. I wish that more of my “Christian” friends would spend more time practicing what they preach as opposed to flinging judgement and disdain at the people that believe differently. Other people’s beliefs will not change mine, nor will they effect my personal relationship or the choices that I’ve made for myself. Instead, I’m going to try and love in spite of all the noise. Merry Christmas. 🙂

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