Honouring the gift of a man named Kevin.

21 yeas ago, I had a friend that liked our other friends boyfriends room-mate. I knew absolutely nothing about him, except that his name was Kevin. The first time we met, he was sitting on his front porch, reading my favourite book, which I noticed but didn’t really think too much about. And the second time, he gave me his car to drive myself home after my friend, and my ride, had gone home because “he” wasn’t paying any attention to her. That night, I told my Mom that I had just met my future husband.

Funny thing is, I really, honestly, didn’t “feel” anything for him. At all. I just KNEW that he was going to be my husband. Life went on and I “forgot” about my epiphany and my future plans. I went travelling with my Dad, and came home for a wedding. It was my friend’s birthday so I invited her to come over for cake. She had long given up the “quest to make Kevin hers”, but just so happened to have talked to him that day, so she invited him to come along. My Mom hired him to paint our house, and we were never apart again.

We spent hours and hours talking, and I finally began to “know” why he was destined to be mine. 6 months later we were engaged. 6 months after that, we were married. And I will forever be thankful for the gift that was given to me, in him.

I say all that, to say this. 2 weeks ago, my husband achieved something HUGE. Both literally and figuratively, and I am so stinking proud of him. He achieved it by working hard, pushing himself to his limits, and by playing fair. He accomplished something at almost 49 years of age that people half his age couldn’t even dream of achieving. He entered his first bodybuilding competition and won. He did this WITHOUT steroids and by doing all the right things. He began this journey when he was 16 years old, and in spite of knowing that he would never achieve the body of his bodybuilding heroes without “help”, he didn’t do it. He stayed natural, and worked twice as hard.

Unfortunately, not everyone believes that and it ticks me off. Some people are also assuming that because he’s so big and muscular, that all he thinks about is going to the gym and nothing else. Well, let me clear a few things up for you, right now. He is so much more than what you see on the outside, and even though that picture is pretty darned amazing, the person that he IS, is even more incredible.

Kevin is one of the most trustworthy and honourable people that you will ever meet. Integrity and honesty are what he practices on a daily basis. He is humble and does not boast of all that he has accomplished. He works harder than many people that I know, and is always willing to do what is necessary to take care of our family. He is faithful and diligent in all he does. He loves his family passionately and is an amazing father. He stands up for people that aren’t strong enough to stand on their own. He is quiet and unassuming, but never mistake his peaceful demeanor for weakness. He may be a man of few words, but his words are filled with thought and strength. He genuinely cares about people and wants to make a difference in our home and our community. He is not perfect by any means, but he is someone that this world needs more of. He is my best friend.

So for those of you that make the assumption that he is a muscle-headed steroid monkey, you are wrong. So very, very wrong. Biceps, Brains & Heart….THAT is my husband.


Love you Wiener.   ~ Your Wifey  xoxox

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6 thoughts on “Honouring the gift of a man named Kevin.

  1. Linda May 23, 2013 at 4:07 pm Reply

    While your husband has been your gift I am sure that you are his. The ability to stand up for those we love can sometimes be a daunting task when others challenge them. This is a wonderful testament to a beautiful love story. Best wishes to you and your lovely Kevin~

  2. Sheri Landry (@ThisBirdsDay) May 23, 2013 at 9:46 pm Reply

    This is such a beautiful post and a big congrats on him reaching his goals… the right way!

  3. Jackie May 24, 2013 at 6:32 am Reply

    Congrats to Kevin! Many of us face judgement based on appearances, whether it is the “fat girl”‘ or your body-building husband or the mom at the mall who’s child (with ASD) is having a meltdown. Instead of feeling acceptance, awe, or empathy, many people need to express judgement so they can feel better about themselves. I feel sad for them. Thanks, April for continuing to remind us to celebrate each other for our uniqueness and bravo to Kevin for his integrity and victory.

  4. Kevin Wiens May 24, 2013 at 11:02 am Reply

    Thank you wifey. God knew what He was doing when he brought us together.
    I Love you!

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