The Road to Skinny … Or Not.

The beginning of a new year brings about the desire for change. It pushes us to think about what we want that is better than what we currently have. It seems to make our eyes focus on all that is wrong with us, and not necessarily all that’s right. It’s the time of year that people seem to think and/or hope will set off this huge firecracker under their butts and in their minds that will cause them to jump up and change. It’s a fresh start and a new beginning.

For me, the new year forces me to focus on my never-ending trek towards “skinny”.  It’s this thing that follows me everywhere I go. It’s the thing I cannot seem to conquer. It’s quite literally the very large elephant in the room that just won’t die, no matter how hard I try. Or maybe not.

If I were to be totally honest, I don’t think I’ve ever cared enough to really want to change it. I’ve got a couple of months worth of willpower, and about 47 seconds of desire. I’ve got all the knowledge in the world, and an incredible team of people willing to support and help me, but somehow I’m also good with where I’m at. I’ve got a massive desire to shop in any store, and not just the stupid chubby girl shops, but for some reason, I’m okay with not trying all that hard to change.

I’m Fat and Happy, and I don’t think this is how I’m supposed to feel.

Don’t get me wrong, I’d love to be 6 sizes smaller. I’d like to be able to walk around the block without wanting to die. I like the idea of wearing shorts when it’s hot – no I NEVER wear shorts. I’d like to have more energy. I’d like my knees to not hurt. I’d love to sit outside in the summer and not want to die because I’m SO hot, which is a problem because as you know, I don’t wear shorts and fat people have a whole lotta extra insulation. I’d like to not have people give me the classic fat girl compliment, “You’ve got such a pretty face”, to me. Ever. Again. I’d like to be able to touch my toes, for no other reason to say that I can. I want to just take up less space.

So … where does that leave me? The Happy Fat Girl that want’s to be skinny, but doesn’t really care.

I don’t think I’ll ever understand how I truly feel about this subject, or if I’ll ever fully figure it out but I believe that it’s leading me somewhere. In some weirdo, round-a-bout backwards way, it’s taking me to what I really want and need. I want to be more focused. More centered and just more Me. I’m happy, but I want another level of happy. I want to be overflowing with Joy, so much so that it oozes from me and into the world around me. Skinny won’t accomplish that …. but I can.

2015 is going to be the Year of April. I’m going to write. I’m going to write about anything and everything and just write because I can. I’m going to spend time making my new blog fun and super successful. I’m going to move into a house that is exactly what our family needs. I’m going to fall back into mad love with my husband. I’m going to finally put all of my anxiety’s behind me, and step forward without worry about stupid things that I can not control. I’m going to focus on getting healthy and not care at all about skinny. Maybe a smaller size will follow, but whatever, I don’t care.

I’m excited about what’s to come and even more excited to figure out that my “Road to Skinny” is officially on a detour to somewhere totally different.

This road is officially leading to me.




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6 thoughts on “The Road to Skinny … Or Not.

  1. sheree January 5, 2015 at 3:34 pm Reply

    I love it April! You’ve expressed what I’ve been feeling for so long now. I wish you well on your journey to health, happiness and love…and should a size smaller be in your future, then booyah! Too many people are focused on what people/things look like and NOT what’s really important…whether they are decent, kind, loving and a beautiful person where it counts (at heart). Good for you!!!

  2. Lynn January 5, 2015 at 4:02 pm Reply

    The problem Is that I can’t find the road to skinny!

    I am currently reading a book called “Women, Food and God” by Genevieve Roth. She says there psychological dimension to the weight issue. You’re saying pretty much the same thing that she is. We eat because we are anxious, want to have better lives, be happier with ourselves, etc etc. Part of it is our food choices, and part of it is that food is comfort. Yet we want to be skinny AND healthy.

    P.S. You DO have a pretty face! People aren’t saying that just to be nice. Your eyes are really striking. Skinny or not, you will keep hearing it.

  3. Kevin Wiens January 5, 2015 at 5:58 pm Reply

    Good post. I’m looking forward to the “falling madly in love with my husband” this year. I’ll do my best to help you get there.

    On Mon, Jan 5, 2015 at 2:55 PM, This Moms Got Something to Say wrote:

    > this mom’s got something to say … posted: “The beginning of a new > year brings about the desire for change. It pushes us to think about what > we want that is better than what we currently have. It seems to make our > eyes focus on all that is wrong with us, and not necessarily all that’s > right. It’s t”

  4. Christina January 6, 2015 at 10:18 am Reply

    Great post, April! I’m excited to see where this year takes you. I’ll be cheering you on all the way! Hit me up if you need a blog brainstorming session.

  5. cornata January 6, 2015 at 11:24 am Reply

    One thing that helps me is to keep in mind that I am running a marathon, not sprinting the 100m dash. Small pains and small plans are working better for me than any major effort ever did. I don’t measure my weight, I just track my progress. I’m not aiming to be the size 12 I always dreamed of in high school, I’m just trying to eat better and exercise consistently. I started with a regular 10 minute bike ride and avoiding chips and chocolate bars. For me, that was annoying, but doable. And I’ve been able to make progress from there.

  6. Tracey Loeppky Nielsen January 6, 2015 at 12:11 pm Reply

    Bang on sister! xo

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