This has been a hard week. But not hard for me per-say, but hard for everyone else.
It’s taken 2.5 months, but people’s opinions and worries and ideas about me following this plan have reared their ugly heads. I am doing just fine, but the people around me are not. THAT is what makes being on a diet or following a health plan difficult, the people around the person trying.
Let me make something very clear. If you are trying to lose weight by eating healthy and going to the gym, it’s no easy task. If you choose to take herbal supplements and shakes, it’s still very hard. If you choose the surgical route to lose weight, it’s not a cop-out nor does the weight just fall off. If you choose to follow the plan that I’m on, it is not easy. This is work, it is REALLY hard work.
Changing every single thing about yourself and being cognizant of every piece of food that goes into your mouth, is not easy. Readjusting your social life so it fits into your plan and your new way of thinking is not fun as everyone is mad that you can’t go out like you used to. Putting yourself first instead of friends and family is crazy hard, and someone almost always feels hurt or left out. Staying on track and not just giving in when your goal seems so far away, is incredibly hard on the heart and the brain.
Losing weight and getting healthy is NO JOKE people. It is stinking hard. Food is about so much more than sustenance, it is social, it is the thing that brings families together and unites different groups of people. And that is the first thing that we have to readjust or give up. Food.
No matter how someone chooses to change their lives, someone else is always going to question it. Someone is always going to say that it’s unhealthy, or that they’re cheating by using special products or they just sit there in judgement waiting for them to fail. It’s so NOT okay and it does nothing but make this already incredibly difficult journey even harder.
Funny thing is, no one was all that vocal or concerned when I was just fat and unhealthy, but now they’ve got something to say. Now that I’m eating healthier than I ever have, now that I’m focusing on myself, now that I’m actually feeling better than I have in years, people are yip-yapping all over the place.
If you’re truly concerned about your “friend” and the plan they’re on, ask some questions and stop making assumptions. Ask them if they need help, or want to go for a walk, or just need to vent and talk about how they’re feeling. Most importantly, be proud of them, be supportive and just be present.
And please recognize that BIG changes take BIG changes. You may not fully understand what I’m going through, and that’s totally fine. But please understand that I have to change everything to make things better going forward. I’m very overweight, very unhealthy and just drinking less juice isn’t going to change a darned thing in my life. I have to take the hard way to reach my goals and if you’re on my team, you need to accept that and love me through it. If you can’t, you’re really not on my team.
The majority of the people on a diet are struggling. They’ve come to the end of themselves and are standing at the base of an incredibly high mountain. They need support and love, not more judgement and belittlement. It is going to take a lot of time, a lot of perseverance and a lot of work to get to the top of that mountain.
As their friend, either push, pull or get out of the way.
Week 10 brought me this: A tonne of gossip, a severe sinus infection, a crazy allergic reaction and a loss of 5.5 lbs. It has been a very colourful and interesting week. LOL. BUT I am still winning so BOOM.
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